You knew exactly what you signed up for when you married a doctor. I think your response is Bang on. It has been closed. He's in his second year of residency and we're talking about me leaving everything to get engaged and move up with him.
From someone else in the medical field - a nightly phone call would be seriously draining, even if it only lasted a few minutes. I am a military doctor's wife, so in addition to the hideous hours, we have deployments.
There will be struggles in marriage and childrearing whether or not he is a member.
There are many good things. I am so glad to have found this blog too. I also didn't want to push him away by overwhelming him with talks about commitment when he's already stressed. You love a medical guy.